Tag Archives: Compassion

The Road Less Travelled

A full life

Key Words Suffering Pain Risk Gain Life
Source The road less travelled
Author M Scott Peck
Page 133
Quote If a person is not willing to risk pain then that person must do without many things:having children, getting married, the ecstasy of sex, the hope of ambition, friendship – all that makes life alive, meaningful and significant. Move out to grow in any dimension and pain as well as joy will be your reward. A full life will be full of pain. But the only alternative is not to live fully or not to live at all.

The essence of life is change, a panoply of growth and decay. Elect life and growth and you elect change and the prospect of death

References Life in its fullness (John 10:10)


I Love my family

Key Words Love Care Concern
Source The Road Less Travelled
Author M Scott Peck
Page 119
Quote Says that love is not a feeling, it is an act of will directed at the wellbeing of its object.

Thus even though an alcoholic may say “I love my family”, the fact that this is causing them hurt clearly shows that this is not an act of love


Judicious love

Key Words Love Judgement Struggle Pain
Source The Road Less Travelled
Author M Scott Peck
Page 111
Quote Love is not simply giving; it is judicious giving and judicious withholding as well. It is judicious praising and judicious criticizing. It is judicious arguing, struggling, confronting, urging, pushing and pulling inaddition to comforting. It is leadership. The word “judicious” means requiring judgment, and judgment requires more than instinct; it requires thoughtful and often painful decision-making.


Love is not self-sacrifice

Key Words Love Self-sacrifice Doormat
Source The Road Less Travelled
Author M Scott Peck
Page 111
Quote Tells story of minister who’s family are all having breakdowns because he is doing things for them all the time. In the end he had to stand up to them
References Eye for eye (Matthew 5:38-48)


American War Brides

Key Words Love Projection
Source The Road Less Travelled
Author M Scott Peck
Page 109
Quote Tells story of American soldiers who married brides when they couldn’t speak English.

Once the women learned to talk to the men they no longer wanted to be married to them, because they didn’t love them, they loved the image that had been projected onto them.


Owning Before giving up

Key Words Love Sacrifice Possession Ownership
Source The Road Less Travelled
Author M Scott Peck
Page 97
Quote Talks about insight of most mystics that we must own something before we can give it away. It reminds of a similary thing that Covey talks about in “7 Habits”

On art and voyeurism

“Although he that grives with the grief-stricken is to be commended for his work of charity, yet the man who is fraternally compassionate would prefer to find nothing in the others to need his compassion.  Only in the impossible event of good-will being malevolant could a man who is truly and sincerely filled with pity desire that there should be miserable people for him to pity.  There is a kind fo compassionate sorrow that is good, but there is no kind that we should rejoice to feel.”

This in the end was all mere scratching of the heart, “followed by sweling and inflammation and sores with pus flowing.  Such was my life, but was that a life my God?”

Be Careful Little Eyes What You See

Be careful Little Eyes what you see

Ripple Effect Part 1 – John Ortberg – 21st Feb 2010

Transcript is here.


Interesting thing here, a retake on “Be careful little eyes what you see”, an old song about moral rectitude, because God is watching.

Ortberg takes this in a different direction, and about the power of Jesus to spot what was going on, to spot things that others had missed.  “Be careful little eyes what you see” is the refrain.

Talks about the guy in John 9 – and a brilliant exposition of this passage – about how he grew up, about how hard it was for his parents, and how one day the man Jesus noticed him.

Then talks about the guy caught in Leprosy and the details of the Sabbath laws that meant you could not help this man.  There were even laws which said that you could keep someone alive on the Sabbath but you were not allowed to heal them until the next day.

A challenge to see differently in the world around us.